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Post by roslily on Mar 30, 2008 10:04:14 GMT
My mum went mad. She said I was being ridiculous and following every fad going. She said I will waste away, we are meant to eat meat (I have been veggie since I was 13).
Bear in mind I am 27! I don't know how to explain to her.
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Post by tabitha on Mar 30, 2008 11:33:59 GMT
My father still feels like that and Im 46!!! We have cooked him lovely meals and he has agreed they are lovely, but he still thinks we are extreme and weird.
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Post by Wabbit on Mar 30, 2008 12:32:57 GMT
Roslily, no disrespect meant, but it seems to me that either your mom doesn't really know you & what you stand for after so many years as a veggie, or she's in denial, knowing that you're you right but afraid to admit it as that would mean that she would have to radically change her lifestyle - which constitute a menace to her belief system. I may totally off on this, but somehow, I don't think am that far from the truth. I see it ona daily basis, from coworkers to old friendships, they all knew/ know deep down, that being veg is the right thing, for so many reasons, ranging from ethics/ love of animals/ compassion to ecology , which amounts to the universal love which has been claimed by so many for so long... If I overstep my boundaries, I appologise, but I about had it with all those comments from about everyone who really know and still choses to ignore it... At per extremisme, I'll just send the ones who want to read blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-79ShbcY9bqg737ymyuav5MK5yCZZe0EE?p=60 - I don't want to say the full scope of my thought right now as it stirs my blood when I hear that
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Post by Matt on Mar 30, 2008 13:21:36 GMT
Sorry to hear that, you must've felt pretty uncomfortable. Unless you live with them though it shouldn't really affect them much once it's all simmered down.
My only advice would be to explain rationally why you're doing it - obviously that would depend on what your reasons are.
I tend to either be vague with something they can't disagree with ("I feel it's the right thing for me to do at the moment") or go into excessive detail about the issues with the meat and dairy industries, but with a big grin on my face. They'll eventually think I'm taking the piss and/or get sick of hearing me ramble on and will stop bringing it up.
Failing that, just avoid talking about it and get on with living your life in the way you've chosen to. I had my parents over for dinner and discreetly overwhelmed them with vegan dishes; salads, potatoes with coriander, mushrooms stuffed with olives and Toffuti cream cheese, bruschetta with garlic and tomatoes, couscous, banana brownies.... that gets rid of the "you'll waste away" argument but also proves you're more than capable of having a healthy, varied vegan diet.
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Post by roslily on Mar 30, 2008 16:48:09 GMT
Thanks. I started by saying that I wanted to tell her something, and I wanted her to respect it.
Anyway I told her the reasons why, but she just rolled her eyes (it was the animal issues, the way dairy and eggs are produced) She said "well none of us like it, but we still eat it" She said everything in moderation etc.
I did point out that I was 27, living away from home, have my own house, getting married this year! And also that I don't drink or take drugs, have a good job so really couldn't understand why she was overreacting.
Anyway I have left her now, so will let things blow over a little. We are not gonna have totally vegan food at the wedding as we have already arranged the catering (mostly veggie food) and they are paying for it, so will not have it totally vegan.
I am trying to stay calm and be compassionate, but it is hard!
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Post by Matt on Mar 30, 2008 17:13:40 GMT
Good stuff - sounds like you have it all in hand.
Hopefully she'll come around in time. If not, tell her you're a crack addict and plan to live on the streets with a hairy nomad you met while off your face on crystal meth.
It might put veganism into perspective....!
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Post by sandra on Mar 30, 2008 17:15:21 GMT
I'm sure when your mum sees how healthy and well you are as time goes on she will calm down and realise that your diet is doing you good. I've found that since becoming vegan 2 years ago there are actually more things to eat! Stuff I wouldn't have tried before! Sometimes I wish there were more hours in the day so I could eat more. I did lose a little weight when I first became vegan but have stayed at around 7 stone 10lbs since then. As the vegan diet is so healthy, you can eat far more and still not put on weight.............but it is possible to put weight on whilst on a vegan diet too! Just let things go for now and live your life the way YOU feel is right, your mum will come to see one day she was worrying unnecessarily.
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Post by easyemu15 on Apr 8, 2008 5:23:32 GMT
I'm 12 and my parents dont me to be veg
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